Love & Relationships

By Nyasha Gatsi & Miriam Mushaikwa
Sept 28 2017


…Of SEX TAPES & Thangs

 

Gone are the days when a private affair remained behind closed doors. Private parts have now become public viewing. Pokello Nare’s sextape went viral whilst she was on the Big Brother reality show in South Africa and just as the dust was starting to settle, Tinoponda Katsande’s sextape also leaked. What is this world coming to and what example is this setting to young girls?

In Zimbabwe, the people are highly conservative and sex is a taboo topic which has posed as a threat to sexual health education. Resultantly, when Nare’s sextape was made available on the internet, people took to social networks to blast her behavior. Pokello was branded ‘un-Zimbabwean’ and a petition was created on a Facebook page to advocate for her eviction from the Big Brother house.

In America, Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian both shot to fame after the leakage of their sexual ‘home videos’ and this has further aggravated the stereotype that for a woman to make a name for herself she must be naked. Coincidentally, Halle Berry was the first black woman to win an Oscar award after getting bare-naked in a movie. This is a clear sign of moral degradation and sheer desperation for attention.

Dealing in pornographic material in Zimbabwe is against the law. This further emphasizes how conservative we are in Zimbabwe and yet there was no legal retribution for the two ladies. Allow me to highlight the loophole I personally identified. According to the Oxford dictionary, pornography is, “printed or visual material intended to stimulate sexual excitement.” Based on this definition, the sextapes by the two ladies were firstly, intended to be a documentation of their ‘good times’ and secondly, their videos were neither stimulating nor sexually exciting. They were simply disgusting.

These sextapes are hindering the cause spear-headed by the feminists. It is worthy to note that these sextapes are never named after the male participant. This resembles the story in the bible about the adulteress who was brought to Jesus for stoning whilst her married male counterpart was not mentioned.

B-Metro once covered a story about school children that were recorded having sex by their peers through an open window. Clearly the situation is already out of control and now they have contraception from as young as ten years of age. Zimbabweans need a resurgence of role models that did not have to undress to be addressed by the titles they earned through honest hard-work. Women play an important role in society as mothers and nurturers. They instill values into children and reprimand them to make respectable individuals. It used to take a village to raise a child but nowadays the global village has assumed that role in the form of the internet and Western media television programmes. Mothers are the best weapon to counter moral degradation and they must play their role viciously and instill values of self-worth in young girls to be somebodies not some body’s.

 


Sept 28 2017


Is EVERY Woman A Prostitute?

 

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Prostitutes are no longer just the women on the street after hours. Between transactional sex and lobola, JLo owes us an apology for that, “my love don’t cost a thing” song. Transactional sex is closely linked to cross generational sex which is one of the leading attributions of the HIV spreading.

My heart bleeds and my blood boils when school girls in uniform are smiling ear to ear riding shortgun in a kombi. From woman to woman, don’t let them ride a body that’s yours to get rides on a car that
aint his. For young women its usually company cars in the place of kombies. We have all heard the stories about hunger, poverty, fees, and I personally am yet to hear a story worthy of me jeopardising my health and forfeiting my dignity.

The hardest hit are tertiary students who are considered fringe benefits by lecturers and easy targets for married men looking for a thrill. The transaction here is simple, a man going through a mid-life crisis desperately trying to salvage his youth convinces a young woman to concede her youth for groceries, rent and all sorts of material things. Ladies, please dont make a permanent decision based on a temporary situation.

 


Sept 28 2017

#16Days Of Activism Against Gender Based Violence

The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence is an international campaign originating from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute sponsored by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership in 1991. Participants chose the dates, November 25, International Day Against Violence Against Women and December 10, International Human Rights Day, in order to symbolically link violence against women and human rights and to emphasize that such violence is a violation of human rights.

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This 16-day period also highlights other significant dates including November 29, International Women Human Rights Defenders Day, December 1, World AIDS Day, and December 6, which marks the Anniversary of the Montreal Massacre.

The 16 Days Campaign has been used as an organizing strategy by individuals and groups around the world to call for the elimination of all forms of violence against women by:

* raising awareness about gender-based violence as a human rights issue at the local, national, regional and international levels
* strengthening local work around violence against women
* establishing a clear link between local and international work to end violence against women
* providing a forum in which organizers can develop and share new and effective strategies
* demonstrating the solidarity of women around the world organizing against violence against women
* creating tools to pressure governments to implement promises made to eliminate violence against women

The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence Campaign continues the theme of “From Peace in the Home to Peace in the World: Let’s Challenge Militarism and End Violence Against Women!” in 2013.

Girl Grandeur Byo in conjunction with NYDT Zimbabwe is looking for 16 survivor stories to flight in support of the cause. Please email them to girlgrandeurbyo@gmail.com