Lynda Matthews

For things to change for you , you’ve got to change!

Even if you run your own business or work for someone, you never go wrong by working on yourself.

Simple things like changing your attitude, the way your present yourself to others, your smile and even the way you give a handshake… work on that.

The only way it gets better for you is when you get better!

The reason I write about personal development is not because I’m already there, I’m a work in progress. I guess it is like that for everyone, there is no destination when it comes to personal development because there is alwasy room for improvement, bettering yourself is a manner of travelling.

Wanting to be better or achieving certain things in life both start with a thought. Our minds are very powerful tools, feeding them positively is the first thing we need to do, the next step is to start working gradually towards what we want to achieve…the action.

Your list could be long or simple but taking necessary steps to achieve these goals is very important. Don’t we all write down New Year’s resolutions or a simple to-do list for the day and only do some of the tasks or none at all because we failed to execute the action part of the process?

I am  learning that it’s better to be slow, effective, and consistent, taking small actions every single day than to bite off more than you can chew. Biting of more than you can chew results in failure and loss of motivation. A famous quote by Robert Louis says,

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest your reap, but by the seeds that you plant.”

You know your goals, you know what you want to achieve , you know the areas you need to work on and change. Whatever you put your mind to – you can achieve, just take those baby steps and before you know it we’re ticking off our lists of achievements. Now doesn’t that sound exciting?

We can’t change the seasons but we learn how to adapt to them but we can surely change ourselves!

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An unprecedented worldwide lockdown is a history in the making. Although this is a very difficult time it is time we adapted to this environment by getting through this period, better and unaffected as much as possible. Besides spending quality time with family completing household chores and just unwinding from the stress of work they are a couple of things one can do to improve oneself as a whole.


E-learning, utilizing online learning platforms to develop one’s skills and learning new things is a great way to reinvent yourself for the post-pandemic work , online platforms like Coursera, Udemy and edx can offer many online courses from top universities from all over the world for free. If you did not know famous singer Shakira recently completed a philosophy course from the University of Pennsylvania during the lockdown personally! That’s inspiring and I’m definitely looking into taking up a few courses online they say “Practice What You Preach😁.” With schools still being closed primary, secondary and Universities are utilizing e-learning to the fullest. Learning never stops!


Secondly reading is one of the most underrated activities nowadays as most remain hooked to TV, phone and computers. Reading is a great way to broaden perspective and writing skills while also learning. I personally find reading to a book difficult as I’m always busy with house chores and my children. If I don’t find time to sit down to read, apps like audible provide a wide range of audiobooks while on the go or busy with something all you do is listen!

Thirdly networking digitally is a great way to stay in touch, start and develop relationships with acquaintances and new people. Businesses have found opportunities to market and sell they products online. These can be done through media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter WhatsApp , Zoom just to name a few.

While some see this as a painful period to get through others just consider this a great opportunity for self development and personal growth. We have to realize that this is probably the most amount of time we could get to spend by ourselves in our lifetime let us make the most of it!

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I love being a woman and being a mother puts the icing on the cake for me.

Most people, not just women, believe that once you become a mother – it can no longer be about you, your life must revolve around your children. For some people, motherhood means dreams being shattered, life stopping completely for them and an end to all pursuits of self-actualisation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving your children all the love and attention they need, do that, by all means! (We have enough serial killers and psychopaths in this world as it stands) However, it is problematic when you bend over backwards for your kids and do not take the time to look after yourself.

There is no shame in wanting to be a better person, parent, employee or business owner. Remember, continually striving to be better is possibly one of the best examples you could set for your children. Never stop learning, never stop dreaming and never quit!

Life moves so quickly and I would hate to have regrets. I don’t want to have more “I-should-haves” than “I-dids”. Raising three children while trying to learn as much as I can – is daunting, no doubt, but it is possible. Last year I wanted to learn gardening, which I did with the help of good ol’ google and my little people (kids). It was very therapeutic and I got to bond with my children. My oldest has now fallen in love with gardening and is tending to his vegetable garden. I can safely say I’ve hit two birds with one stone.


The harsh economic climate jolted me to start looking for greener pastures in terms of my job. I chose or rather was forced to take a job that involved me being away from my children for six months for the sake of our livelihood (I would be getting a higher salary and the opportunity to travel) It was the hardest decision to make.

Did it make me feel a bit selfish?


However, the reward was fulfilling as I provided for my children and my biggest dream to travel and see new places was finally a reality. I appreciated every moment and everything I had in my life. I even grew spiritually and now have an amazing relationship with God!

I want to learn more, a new language perhaps? I want to study a course and travel more and I’m sure I can do all that while still being the amazing mom that I am.


To the mom reading this: Never stop learning and going for what you think you need to better yourself ! You will still have time to be an amazing mom to your little humans. I have no reason to have any hard feelings towards my kids because while looking after them, I am still looking after me. Remember a happy mom = happy kids. You will thank me later.

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