As young girls we are taught to aspire to have relationships and the promised land of marriage with a suitable partner. But we slowly come to the realisation that life isn’t like a page from Cinderella’s story or #couplegoals. Relationships are difficult and romantic relationships are even more challenging when looking for that ideal partner. Although the quest for finding a ‘bae’ is tough and unpredictable, one constant thing is that the 14th of February will always come knocking each year. So what happens when you aren’t in a relationship? (by choice or by circumstances). Without a doubt you can expect several remarks as early as the 1st of February like “When will you marry?” or “Valentine’s is coming, where is your boyfriend?” These comments can leave you feeling extra lonely, depressed and hopeless for the bulk of the month and people rarely think of how their remarks can have an effect on someone going through their single season. I find that it helps to have a plan for the day. Here are some simple ideas.
- A gift for an amazing someone-You!
Try to do something for yourself that you truly look forward to. You can buy yourself something nice or spend the day on a solo date.
- Have a completely normal day
Start your day as usual and keep busy. It really is just 24 hours and they go by very quickly. So have a normal day and ignore the madness around you.
- Unplug For the Day
If all else fails try to unplug. Stay off social media and people’s statuses. It’s nice to see people in love but if it’s at the expense of your sanity for the day – then let it go sis.
- Focus On Your New Year Goals
In the spirit of keeping busy and undistracted you can decide to focus on your goals. After January you might be able to note resolutions that you need to realign. Manifesting on the to do list you have for the year can be a great way to spend February alone
- Start Planning for the Partner You Want
This one applies where one of those resolutions on your list is actually to put yourself out there and find love. Although Valentine’s Day is just one day, if you have done the work and you are ready to be with someone then make this month your time to get back out there. There are usually mixers and get together’s for single people around this time that you can get involved in. With the digital age you can also take time to spruce up your dating app profile on Tinder, Hinge and Crosspaths. If you are new to online dating you can check out my blog https://www.girlgrandeur.co.zw/love-of-your-life-is-typing/