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Is your cup full, before you pour into others?

by Chipo
written by Chipo

Growing up we used to have a clap-back for the boys who would tout at us. “Usuzithande waqeda yini usuzothanda mina?”, meaning “have you loved yourself enough before you decided to love me?”. Back then, it was just us telling the boys to “buzz off!”. But, as we grew older and looking back at it now, we realise there was more meaning to it than we realised. This was not just a simple question, and it raises so many questions and meaning into it. Do you love yourself enough to know you can love someone else? Do you care for yourself enough to know you have enough care for others? Before you pour into others, is your cup full?

Time and again, life lessons have proven to us that you cannot give what you do not have, nor act upon something, when your energy is depleted. The same applies to personal relationships. Building a healthy relationship requires you to be healthy yourself in the first place. You cannot take care of others, while you also need care for yourself. The phrase “you cannot pour from an empty cup” has a lot to do with self care. If anything, it should be the first rule when it comes to building and maintaining relationships. Take care of yourself first, before you can take care of others. The same goes in love. You cannot love others when you do not love yourself.

When you are depleted you cannot offer our best selves to the world. You have to be mindful of our own needs and ensure that you are taking care of ourselves first. This means taking time for self-care, getting enough rest and eating a healthy diet. It also means taking time for the things you enjoy, such as spending time with friends and family or engaging in hobbies.

It is also important to recognise when you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed. This can be a sign that you are in need of some self-care and it is important to take the time to focus on your own needs. When things get overwhelming and you cannot seem to catch up with your own self, take a break from what demands the most of you. Disconnect from the hustle and bustle of life, and catch your breath. This will help you reset and restore your personal energy. It does not have to cost you so much.

The most important to remember is that you cannot give what you do not have. Unless you refill what has been depleted, you cannot continue giving. You cannot pour from an empty cup. You have to make sure to take care of yourself so that you can give your best to the world. Besides, how will you know how to love and care for others, when you do not know how to do it to yourself? Unless, if you are toxic.

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Simple tips for working on yourself

by Lynda Matthews
written by Lynda Matthews

For things to change for you , you’ve got to change!


Even if you run your own business or work for someone, you never go wrong by working on yourself.

Simple things like changing your attitude, the way your present yourself to others, your smile and even the way you give a handshake… work on that.

The only way it gets better for you is when you get better!

The reason I write about personal development is not because I’m already there, I’m a work in progress. I guess it is like that for everyone, there is no destination when it comes to personal development because there is alwasy room for improvement, bettering yourself is a manner of travelling.

Wanting to be better or achieving certain things in life both start with a thought. Our minds are very powerful tools, feeding them positively is the first thing we need to do, the next step is to start working gradually towards what we want to achieve…the action.

Your list could be long or simple but taking necessary steps to achieve these goals is very important. Don’t we all write down New Year’s resolutions or a simple to-do list for the day and only do some of the tasks or none at all because we failed to execute the action part of the process?


I am  learning that it’s better to be slow, effective, and consistent, taking small actions every single day than to bite off more than you can chew. Biting of more than you can chew results in failure and loss of motivation. A famous quote by Robert Louis says,

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest your reap, but by the seeds that you plant.”

You know your goals, you know what you want to achieve , you know the areas you need to work on and change. Whatever you put your mind to – you can achieve, just take those baby steps and before you know it we’re ticking off our lists of achievements. Now doesn’t that sound exciting?

We can’t change the seasons but we learn how to adapt to them but we can surely change ourselves!

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Personal Development during this lockdown

by Lynda Matthews
written by Lynda Matthews


An unprecedented worldwide lockdown is a history in the making. Although this is a very difficult time it is time we adapted to this environment by getting through this period, better and unaffected as much as possible. Besides spending quality time with family completing household chores and just unwinding from the stress of work they are a couple of things one can do to improve oneself as a whole.

 

E-learning, utilizing online learning platforms to develop one’s skills and learning new things is a great way to reinvent yourself for the post-pandemic work , online platforms like Coursera, Udemy and edx can offer many online courses from top universities from all over the world for free. If you did not know famous singer Shakira recently completed a philosophy course from the University of Pennsylvania during the lockdown personally! That’s inspiring and I’m definitely looking into taking up a few courses online they say “Practice What You Preach😁.” With schools still being closed primary, secondary and Universities are utilizing e-learning to the fullest. Learning never stops!

 

Secondly reading is one of the most underrated activities nowadays as most remain hooked to TV, phone and computers. Reading is a great way to broaden perspective and writing skills while also learning. I personally find reading to a book difficult as I’m always busy with house chores and my children. If I don’t find time to sit down to read, apps like audible provide a wide range of audiobooks while on the go or busy with something all you do is listen!

Thirdly networking digitally is a great way to stay in touch, start and develop relationships with acquaintances and new people. Businesses have found opportunities to market and sell they products online. These can be done through media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter WhatsApp , Zoom just to name a few.

While some see this as a painful period to get through others just consider this a great opportunity for self development and personal growth. We have to realize that this is probably the most amount of time we could get to spend by ourselves in our lifetime let us make the most of it!

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